Dear Amy: For the past two years I have been in love with a wonderful woman. When we met she explained that she was good friends with a man she met 16 months before. They had a sexual relationship, but she decided it would end. However, after making this decision, they fell back into sex while on a combined family vacation.
Dear Amy: I am an only child. My family and I live about five hours from my parents, who are retired.
Dear Amy: My wife’s daughter (age 26) has lived with us for the past five years. She pays rent of $400, including everything.
Today, part of what was the prison farm property on Johnson Road at the Summit houses the Camp Summit Boot Camp.
Dear Amy: I was terribly shy and lonely as a kid. Somewhere in my teens I decided to break out of it. I became a performer, have two degrees and have taught at universities around the world. I raised three wonderful and successful children with my wife of three decades.
Dear Amy: I am a woman in my late 60s who has had a friend for more than 40 years. Many years ago I was in a powerful position with an organization and encouraged her to apply for a job with the company. She worked for several years in various administrative roles (never reporting directly to me) and was a very good employee, as well as a good friend.
Dear Amy: I am 43 years old and was adopted at birth. I had the usual curiosities about my biological parents growing up, but have wonderful parents and siblings and never went looking for my biological parents.
Dear Amy: I’m a waitress/bartender at a restaurant in a small town.
Is your teen waking up bright-eyed and bushy-tailed each morning? Or, is getting him or her out of bed like trying to move a freight train?
Dear Amy: My stepson recently turned 21. Because he has friends who are minors, his mother warned him about the responsibilities involving the use of liquor. Despite this, he directly defied her and invited “friends” over the first night we were away from home.
Dear Amy: My parents are entering the retirement phase of life and they have enlisted the help of a financial planner. The planner has shared some personal information, including telling them where he lived and the identity of some of his neighbors.
Dear Amy: I thought I had the perfect marriage until I met “Brian” about three years ago.
Dear Amy: Because of a job opportunity with the company he works for, my son and his wife will leave the country for at least three years.
When it comes to child abuse and neglect, each of us plays a role.
Dear Amy: For much of our marriage (25-plus years), my husband worked 60-plus hours per week.
Dear Amy: My husband of 15 years is a high-functioning alcoholic. I knew this going into our relationship 18 years ago but now I have some new resentments popping up.
Dear Amy: My parents got divorced when I was a toddler.
Dear Amy: I’m a married father of three. My father has long held the belief that I am a disappointment to him, due to some poor choices I’ve made in my life.
Dear Amy: I’ve been married for almost 20 years to a man who I think is a good person and a good provider. When it comes to his work life, or dealing with his family (who can be quite difficult) he is open-minded, patient and puts his best foot forward. I greatly respect these qualities.
Every spring, I join with three colleagues to represent Dunebrook in Read La Porte County’s Spell Bowl. This is an annual event to raise funds for Read La Porte County’s efforts to improve reading and math skills in children and adult learners. It’s a cause that is very dear to our hearts at Dunebrook.
DEAR AMY: My 15-year-old teenage son had numerous friends, but in the past year all of them have taken to drinking (vodka) and smoking pot.
DEAR AMY: I’m a European man living in Los Angeles. I use a dating app and the following situation has happened many times to me (as well as to other friends):
DEAR AMY: I am the mother of 21- and 19-year-old daughters. They are both in very self-absorbed stages – the older more than the younger.
DEAR AMY: Is it appropriate for a parent to sleep in their 13-year-old’s bed alongside that child for the entire night?
DEAR AMY: I have a huge dilemma. “Jane” and I have been good friends since middle school. I love her like a sister.
DEAR AMY: My wife and I are expecting our first child, and we know we will be having a boy.
Mitch Albom wrote in the “Five People You Meet in Heaven,” “All endings are really beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.” These days, I’m finding solace in his wisdom.
DEAR AMY: I work at a busy hair salon as a stylist. I love my job and the salon where I work. I get along well with the other stylists. However, the stylist I work next to lets his clients bring a friend or two to stay with them while he does their hair.
DEAR AMY: I’ve been seeing this boy. We’ve hit it off very well, right from the beginning.
DEAR AMY: I am struggling with the decision of whether I should stay with my husband.
DEAR AMY: I’ve worked for nearly 18 months for an organization I love. I’ve known the head of the organization for more than 10 years. Although I report to someone about four levels down from him, it is still a pretty easy-going, non-hierarchical place, and he is exceedingly approachable at all times.
DEAR AMY: I am one of the blessed millennials who has a job I love. This job happens to involve a great deal of technology use, and a rapid pace of project completion.
Several years ago, I was volunteering at a regional event to raise funds for a child abuse prevention organization. As guests strolled by the parking lot where we were located to see what was going on, an older gentleman walked up to me and asked what we were doing.
DEAR READERS: A recent letter from “Wannabe Fiancee” described a familiar situation — Wannabe had lived with her boyfriend for five years, and despite dropping lots of hints and telling him she wanted to get married, he had not made any moves in that direction. I suggested it might be time for an ultimatum. This prompted hundreds of responses from readers who wanted to share their wisdom and experiences. Many readers suggested that if Wannabe wanted to get married, she should pop the question. Following is a sampling of responses:
DEAR AMY: My husband and I have three children. The oldest is almost 4, and we have 2-year-old twins. My husband’s sister has a teenage son.
DEAR AMY: I’ve had a dear friend for about 25 years – since we were toddlers.
DEAR AMY: I am 17 years old and a lesbian. I’m trying to figure out how to come out to my family, or at least to my dad. I know my family is nonsupportive of other LGBT members of the family. Sometimes they say awful things about them. They tell a lot of jokes, and sometimes it’s really hard on me.
DEAR AMY: I am 47 years old, attractive and in decent physical shape. I receive compliments from many men of a variety of ages. I have just met a new man who is 54, and we are very attracted to each other (not only in the physical sense). We have another date coming up and, although I would love to become intimate with him, I am very self-conscious about my body.
DEAR AMY: I am a college student. I have had one serious boyfriend. We broke up at the beginning of this year, and I have grown up and blossomed since then.
Fans of Buddy the Elf will remember that he sticks to the four major food groups: candy, candy canes, candy corns and syrup.
DEAR AMY: I am a 36-year-old female. When I was 16, as the oldest of four children, I experienced the most aggressive beating from my father in a long line of abusive beatings. The incident was so bad that my mother sent me to stay at a friend’s house for a week while the entire matter “settled down.”
DEAR AMY: Our daughter is a bright, talented 19-year-old who has already gotten four small tattoos, several ear piercings, and a nose ring. You know – the usual. She has now told us about her next piece, an elbow-to-shoulder full-color floral arrangement. She says she is planning to start gauging her ears and was considering a dermal implant near her collarbone.
Often we have heard Benjamin Franklin’s quote: “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”
DEAR AMY: My boyfriend has three grown kids. I have a young son, and my boyfriend and I recently had a child together.
DEAR AMY: I am a 25-year-old young professional woman in a white-collar job with a boyfriend of 10 months, who works in a blue-collar job. He is the type who wants to save and buy a house 30 miles outside of town. I have a little more wanderlust and don’t see myself buying a house/apartment until I am much older. This is a fundamental difference between us, and I wonder if we could ever compromise.
DEAR AMY: I recently had skin cancer removed from my face and took four weeks off of work to recover.
No matter what virtues and values you try to model and instill into your children, they will ultimately determine their own behavior and choices.
DEAR AMY: We first met when I was 14 and he was 16, but when we reconnected we were both married to other people, and we left our spouses for each other. We were married for six years. This ended up being a very toxic and at times abusive relationship.