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The story of Ruth Clark Sabin

Numerous questions have been asked about Ruth C. Sabin, her family and the structure at 1603 Michigan Ave., following the announcement that the Ruth C. Sabin Home will be closing its doors Aug. 31, after 128 years existence.

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Friday 05/27/2016
Family of alcoholic enables after mother's death
Posted: May 27, 2016

Dear Amy: My father is a 70-year-old alcoholic and gambler who refuses to accept help.

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Wednesday 05/25/2016
College-bound girl worries about pledge to parents
Posted: May 25, 2016

Dear Amy: I am about to graduate from high school. I am very happy with my college choice and I am majoring in STEM, so I am looking forward to being part of the growing group of young females in the scientific world; however, I have concerns about the social changes in college.

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Monday 05/23/2016
Man wonders why his 'hello' goes badly
Posted: May 23, 2016

Dear Amy: I’m a middle-aged, white, gay man living in West Hollywood. I’d like your advice on the proper way to give a friendly acknowledgment to women as I pass them on the street.

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He wants to fix wife'sdysfunctional family
Posted: May 23, 2016

Dear Amy: My wife’s family is dysfunctional (aren’t we all?).

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Saturday 05/21/2016
The serious side of thrills
Posted: May 21, 2016

Hands down. Head back. Hold on.

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Mom wishes she hadn't been witness to a kiss
Posted: May 21, 2016

Dear Amy: My family and I live in a small town in the Midwest.

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Friday 05/20/2016
Scammer's paradise
Posted: May 20, 2016

I just got an email from our friend Beverly, saying that she is in Pakistan and she's just been pickpocketed. She has no money and no passport, and she needs $2,500 to get home.

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Carpooling dad is upset when girl doesn't greet him
Posted: May 20, 2016

Dear Amy: My wife drives our 16-year-old daughter and our next-door neighbor girl to their school every morning. When my wife is busy in the morning, I drive.

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Thursday 05/19/2016
Wife wonders if email relationship is cheating
Posted: May 19, 2016

Dear Amy: My husband I have been married for three years. We jumped through many hoops in order to be together.

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Wednesday 05/18/2016
Parents are upset over mess of their own making
Posted: May 18, 2016

Dear Amy: My 19-year-old son has had an issue his whole life: He never cleans his room!

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Monday 05/16/2016
Youth sports league juggles compassion and fee
Posted: May 16, 2016

Dear Amy: I am a volunteer for a youth sports league.

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Why don't women shave their arms? Amy explains
Posted: May 16, 2016

Dear Amy: Why don’t women typically remove the hair on their arms (elbow to wrist)?

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Saturday 05/14/2016
Handling our children's disappointments
Posted: May 14, 2016

I married my first husband in Norm Bruemmer’s 12th grade Sociology class at Elston High School. My “husband” Jeff and I were paired together as compatible, based on various dimensions of personality traits and relationship attributes.

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Woman returns from vacation pregnant by masseur
Posted: May 14, 2016

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for the week while I put the finishing touches on my new book, which will be published in the fall. Please enjoy these “Best Of” columns in my absence. I’ll be back with your fresh questions and answers next week.

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Friday 05/13/2016
Mother-daughter survivors wrestle with burglar
Posted: May 13, 2016

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a week while I put the finishing touches on my new book, which will be published in the fall. Please enjoy these “Best Of” columns in my absence. I’ll be back with your fresh questions and answers next week.

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Thursday 05/12/2016
Three reasons why no one wants to dine with your kids
Posted: May 12, 2016

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a week while I put the finishing touches on my new book, which will be published in the fall. Please enjoy these “Best Of” columns in my absence. I’ll be back with your fresh questions and answers next week.

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Wednesday 05/11/2016
Naturist wants wife to take it all off
Posted: May 11, 2016

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a week while I put the finishing touches on my new book, which will be published in the fall. Please enjoy these “Best Of” columns in my absence. I’ll be back with your fresh questions and answers next week.

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Monday 05/09/2016
Nanny worries about body image of young charges
Posted: May 09, 2016

 

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Son wants to peek into mysterious envelope
Posted: May 09, 2016

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a week while I put the finishing touches on my new book, which will be published in the fall. Please enjoy these “Best Of” columns in my absence. I’ll be back with your fresh questions and answers next week.

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Saturday 05/07/2016
Jail time and divorce sever grandparent ties
Posted: May 07, 2016

Dear Amy: My son and daughter-in-law are separated. My son is in county jail awaiting sentencing.

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Even parents make mistakes
Updated: May 12, 2016 - 2:34 pm

Every once in a while, parents make a mistake. Actually, I should re-phrase that. Every once in a while, children catch their parents make a mistake. Recently, I got caught.

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Thursday 05/05/2016
Former friend flees first, worries later
Posted: May 05, 2016

Dear Amy: About five years ago, my (now ex) boyfriend and I leased a place with some friends. One of these friends, “Mark,” ended up sleeping with my ex while we were still together.

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Wednesday 05/04/2016
Mysterious messages raise relationship questions
Posted: May 04, 2016

Dear Amy: I am a 28-year-old, college-educated woman who has been in a serious relationship for the past two years. Last year my boyfriend’s job took him to a different state. I left my family and job and moved to be with him.

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Monday 05/02/2016
Mom wants husband to be more engaged with baby
Posted: May 02, 2016

Dear Amy: I’ve been married for five years to a wonderful, funny and very hardworking man. We have one child, who just turned a year old.

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Should couples split the check for birth control?
Posted: May 02, 2016

Dear Amy: I am in a long-term relationship, and my partner and I are beginning to discuss birth control options (in particular, the pill). Should I ask my partner to help me pay for birth control?

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Saturday 04/30/2016
The importance of a 'medical home'
Posted: April 30, 2016

I was pummeled last week with the flu. I could have more easily bounced back from a tackle by Refrigerator Perry.

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Man's partner has intimate relationship with another man
Posted: April 30, 2016

Dear Amy: For the past two years I have been in love with a wonderful woman. When we met she explained that she was good friends with a man she met 16 months before. They had a sexual relationship, but she decided it would end. However, after making this decision, they fell back into sex while on a combined family vacation.

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Friday 04/29/2016
Only child worries about caring for distant parents
Posted: April 29, 2016

Dear Amy: I am an only child. My family and I live about five hours from my parents, who are retired.

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Thursday 04/28/2016
Stepparent wants to give tenant the boot
Posted: April 28, 2016

Dear Amy: My wife’s daughter (age 26) has lived with us for the past five years. She pays rent of $400, including everything.

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Wednesday 04/27/2016
The Summit and La Porte County's high points
Posted: April 27, 2016

Today, part of what was the prison farm property on Johnson Road at the Summit houses the Camp Summit Boot Camp.

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Children are labeled and diagnosed by their mother
Updated: April 27, 2016 - 10:50 am

Dear Amy: I was terribly shy and lonely as a kid. Somewhere in my teens I decided to break out of it. I became a performer, have two degrees and have taught at universities around the world. I raised three wonderful and successful children with my wife of three decades.

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Monday 04/25/2016
Friend's dominance is discussed in therapy
Posted: April 25, 2016

Dear Amy: I am a woman in my late 60s who has had a friend for more than 40 years. Many years ago I was in a powerful position with an organization and encouraged her to apply for a job with the company. She worked for several years in various administrative roles (never reporting directly to me) and was a very good employee, as well as a good friend.

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Grandpa to grandson: Beer me. Is this OK?
Posted: April 25, 2016

 

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Saturday 04/23/2016
Adult adoptee is handed birth file. Now what?
Posted: April 23, 2016

Dear Amy: I am 43 years old and was adopted at birth. I had the usual curiosities about my biological parents growing up, but have wonderful parents and siblings and never went looking for my biological parents.

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Friday 04/22/2016
Waitress helps herself to a side dish
Posted: April 22, 2016

Dear Amy: I’m a waitress/bartender at a restaurant in a small town.

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Thursday 04/21/2016
Is your teen getting enough sleep?
Posted: April 21, 2016

Is your teen waking up bright-eyed and bushy-tailed each morning? Or, is getting him or her out of bed like trying to move a freight train?

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Son turns 21 and throws a party for the ages
Posted: April 21, 2016

Dear Amy: My stepson recently turned 21. Because he has friends who are minors, his mother warned him about the responsibilities involving the use of liquor. Despite this, he directly defied her and invited “friends” over the first night we were away from home.

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Wednesday 04/20/2016
Family worries about disclosing neighbor's history of abuse
Posted: April 20, 2016

Dear Amy: My parents are entering the retirement phase of life and they have enlisted the help of a financial planner. The planner has shared some personal information, including telling them where he lived and the identity of some of his neighbors.

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Monday 04/18/2016
Co-worker's emotional affair interferes with perfect marriage
Posted: April 18, 2016

Dear Amy: I thought I had the perfect marriage until I met “Brian” about three years ago.

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Mother frets about terrorism with son's move overseas
Posted: April 18, 2016

Dear Amy: Because of a job opportunity with the company he works for, my son and his wife will leave the country for at least three years.

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Saturday 04/16/2016
The face of child abuse
Posted: April 16, 2016

When it comes to child abuse and neglect, each of us plays a role.

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Hardworking husband doesn't work on marriage
Posted: April 16, 2016

Dear Amy: For much of our marriage (25-plus years), my husband worked 60-plus hours per week.

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Friday 04/15/2016
Mom wonders how to put drinking dad in driver's seat
Posted: April 15, 2016

Dear Amy: My husband of 15 years is a high-functioning alcoholic. I knew this going into our relationship 18 years ago but now I have some new resentments popping up.

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Thursday 04/14/2016
Abusive father now insists that daughter apologize
Posted: April 14, 2016

Dear Amy: My parents got divorced when I was a toddler.

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Monday 04/11/2016
Father struggles with relationship and role as a son
Posted: April 11, 2016

Dear Amy: I’m a married father of three. My father has long held the belief that I am a disappointment to him, due to some poor choices I’ve made in my life.

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Woman from abusive family finds similar life with husband
Posted: April 11, 2016

Dear Amy: I’ve been married for almost 20 years to a man who I think is a good person and a good provider. When it comes to his work life, or dealing with his family (who can be quite difficult) he is open-minded, patient and puts his best foot forward. I greatly respect these qualities.

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Saturday 04/09/2016
Cultivating young readers
Posted: April 09, 2016

Every spring, I join with three colleagues to represent Dunebrook in Read La Porte County’s Spell Bowl. This is an annual event to raise funds for Read La Porte County’s efforts to improve reading and math skills in children and adult learners. It’s a cause that is very dear to our hearts at Dunebrook.

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Teen son is abandoned by friends; can dad help?
Posted: April 09, 2016

DEAR AMY: My 15-year-old teenage son had numerous friends, but in the past year all of them have taken to drinking (vodka) and smoking pot.

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Friday 04/08/2016
Dating app changes gentleman into sucker
Posted: April 08, 2016

DEAR AMY: I’m a European man living in Los Angeles. I use a dating app and the following situation has happened many times to me (as well as to other friends):

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