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I was pummeled last week with the flu. I could have more easily bounced back from a tackle by Refrigerator Perry.

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Saturday 04/30/2016
Man's partner has intimate relationship with another man
Posted: April 30, 2016

Dear Amy: For the past two years I have been in love with a wonderful woman. When we met she explained that she was good friends with a man she met 16 months before. They had a sexual relationship, but she decided it would end. However, after making this decision, they fell back into sex while on a combined family vacation.

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Friday 04/29/2016
Only child worries about caring for distant parents
Posted: April 29, 2016

Dear Amy: I am an only child. My family and I live about five hours from my parents, who are retired.

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Thursday 04/28/2016
Stepparent wants to give tenant the boot
Posted: April 28, 2016

Dear Amy: My wife’s daughter (age 26) has lived with us for the past five years. She pays rent of $400, including everything.

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Wednesday 04/27/2016
The Summit and La Porte County's high points
Posted: April 27, 2016

Today, part of what was the prison farm property on Johnson Road at the Summit houses the Camp Summit Boot Camp.

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Children are labeled and diagnosed by their mother
Updated: April 27, 2016 - 10:50 am

Dear Amy: I was terribly shy and lonely as a kid. Somewhere in my teens I decided to break out of it. I became a performer, have two degrees and have taught at universities around the world. I raised three wonderful and successful children with my wife of three decades.

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Monday 04/25/2016
Friend's dominance is discussed in therapy
Posted: April 25, 2016

Dear Amy: I am a woman in my late 60s who has had a friend for more than 40 years. Many years ago I was in a powerful position with an organization and encouraged her to apply for a job with the company. She worked for several years in various administrative roles (never reporting directly to me) and was a very good employee, as well as a good friend.

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Grandpa to grandson: Beer me. Is this OK?
Posted: April 25, 2016

 

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Saturday 04/23/2016
Adult adoptee is handed birth file. Now what?
Posted: April 23, 2016

Dear Amy: I am 43 years old and was adopted at birth. I had the usual curiosities about my biological parents growing up, but have wonderful parents and siblings and never went looking for my biological parents.

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Friday 04/22/2016
Waitress helps herself to a side dish
Posted: April 22, 2016

Dear Amy: I’m a waitress/bartender at a restaurant in a small town.

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Thursday 04/21/2016
Is your teen getting enough sleep?
Posted: April 21, 2016

Is your teen waking up bright-eyed and bushy-tailed each morning? Or, is getting him or her out of bed like trying to move a freight train?

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Son turns 21 and throws a party for the ages
Posted: April 21, 2016

Dear Amy: My stepson recently turned 21. Because he has friends who are minors, his mother warned him about the responsibilities involving the use of liquor. Despite this, he directly defied her and invited “friends” over the first night we were away from home.

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Wednesday 04/20/2016
Family worries about disclosing neighbor's history of abuse
Posted: April 20, 2016

Dear Amy: My parents are entering the retirement phase of life and they have enlisted the help of a financial planner. The planner has shared some personal information, including telling them where he lived and the identity of some of his neighbors.

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Monday 04/18/2016
Co-worker's emotional affair interferes with perfect marriage
Posted: April 18, 2016

Dear Amy: I thought I had the perfect marriage until I met “Brian” about three years ago.

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Mother frets about terrorism with son's move overseas
Posted: April 18, 2016

Dear Amy: Because of a job opportunity with the company he works for, my son and his wife will leave the country for at least three years.

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Saturday 04/16/2016
The face of child abuse
Posted: April 16, 2016

When it comes to child abuse and neglect, each of us plays a role.

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Hardworking husband doesn't work on marriage
Posted: April 16, 2016

Dear Amy: For much of our marriage (25-plus years), my husband worked 60-plus hours per week.

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Friday 04/15/2016
Mom wonders how to put drinking dad in driver's seat
Posted: April 15, 2016

Dear Amy: My husband of 15 years is a high-functioning alcoholic. I knew this going into our relationship 18 years ago but now I have some new resentments popping up.

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Thursday 04/14/2016
Abusive father now insists that daughter apologize
Posted: April 14, 2016

Dear Amy: My parents got divorced when I was a toddler.

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Monday 04/11/2016
Father struggles with relationship and role as a son
Posted: April 11, 2016

Dear Amy: I’m a married father of three. My father has long held the belief that I am a disappointment to him, due to some poor choices I’ve made in my life.

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Woman from abusive family finds similar life with husband
Posted: April 11, 2016

Dear Amy: I’ve been married for almost 20 years to a man who I think is a good person and a good provider. When it comes to his work life, or dealing with his family (who can be quite difficult) he is open-minded, patient and puts his best foot forward. I greatly respect these qualities.

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Saturday 04/09/2016
Cultivating young readers
Posted: April 09, 2016

Every spring, I join with three colleagues to represent Dunebrook in Read La Porte County’s Spell Bowl. This is an annual event to raise funds for Read La Porte County’s efforts to improve reading and math skills in children and adult learners. It’s a cause that is very dear to our hearts at Dunebrook.

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Teen son is abandoned by friends; can dad help?
Posted: April 09, 2016

DEAR AMY: My 15-year-old teenage son had numerous friends, but in the past year all of them have taken to drinking (vodka) and smoking pot.

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Friday 04/08/2016
Dating app changes gentleman into sucker
Posted: April 08, 2016

DEAR AMY: I’m a European man living in Los Angeles. I use a dating app and the following situation has happened many times to me (as well as to other friends):

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Thursday 04/07/2016
Mother worries that daughter is a self-absorbed jerk
Posted: April 07, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am the mother of 21- and 19-year-old daughters. They are both in very self-absorbed stages – the older more than the younger.

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Wednesday 04/06/2016
Is it OK for parents to co-sleep with adolescent children?
Posted: April 06, 2016

DEAR AMY: Is it appropriate for a parent to sleep in their 13-year-old’s bed alongside that child for the entire night?

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Monday 04/04/2016
Friend signs a chastity pledge, but is she?
Posted: April 04, 2016

DEAR AMY: I have a huge dilemma. “Jane” and I have been good friends since middle school. I love her like a sister.

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Expectant dad plays the age-old name game
Posted: April 04, 2016

DEAR AMY: My wife and I are expecting our first child, and we know we will be having a boy.

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Saturday 04/02/2016
As time goes by
Posted: April 02, 2016

Mitch Albom wrote in the “Five People You Meet in Heaven,” “All endings are really beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.” These days, I’m finding solace in his wisdom.

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Friday 04/01/2016
Hair stylist puts up with guest encroachments
Posted: April 01, 2016

DEAR AMY: I work at a busy hair salon as a stylist. I love my job and the salon where I work. I get along well with the other stylists. However, the stylist I work next to lets his clients bring a friend or two to stay with them while he does their hair.

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Thursday 03/31/2016
Teen girl is ready to have a baby, but is her guy?
Posted: March 31, 2016

DEAR AMY: I’ve been seeing this boy. We’ve hit it off very well, right from the beginning.

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Wednesday 03/30/2016
Wife wonders if she should stay in her marriage
Posted: March 30, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am struggling with the decision of whether I should stay with my husband.

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Monday 03/28/2016
Booze and business don't always mix well
Posted: March 28, 2016

DEAR AMY: I’ve worked for nearly 18 months for an organization I love. I’ve known the head of the organization for more than 10 years. Although I report to someone about four levels down from him, it is still a pretty easy-going, non-hierarchical place, and he is exceedingly approachable at all times.

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Technological glitch leads to missed connection
Posted: March 28, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am one of the blessed millennials who has a job I love. This job happens to involve a great deal of technology use, and a rapid pace of project completion.

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Saturday 03/26/2016
Be a voice for the voiceless
Posted: March 26, 2016

Several years ago, I was volunteering at a regional event to raise funds for a child abuse prevention organization. As guests strolled by the parking lot where we were located to see what was going on, an older gentleman walked up to me and asked what we were doing.

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Readers respond to an engagement ultimatum
Posted: March 26, 2016

DEAR READERS: A recent letter from “Wannabe Fiancee” described a familiar situation — Wannabe had lived with her boyfriend for five years, and despite dropping lots of hints and telling him she wanted to get married, he had not made any moves in that direction. I suggested it might be time for an ultimatum. This prompted hundreds of responses from readers who wanted to share their wisdom and experiences. Many readers suggested that if Wannabe wanted to get married, she should pop the question. Following is a sampling of responses:

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Friday 03/25/2016
Parents wrestle with grandma's extreme favoritism
Posted: March 25, 2016

DEAR AMY: My husband and I have three children. The oldest is almost 4, and we have 2-year-old twins. My husband’s sister has a teenage son.

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Wednesday 03/23/2016
Friend's spare NYC bedroom is tourist attraction
Posted: March 23, 2016

DEAR AMY: I’ve had a dear friend for about 25 years – since we were toddlers.

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Monday 03/21/2016
Gay teen wants to come out in time for prom
Posted: March 21, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am 17 years old and a lesbian. I’m trying to figure out how to come out to my family, or at least to my dad. I know my family is nonsupportive of other LGBT members of the family. Sometimes they say awful things about them. They tell a lot of jokes, and sometimes it’s really hard on me.

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Middle-aged woman worries about comparative hotness
Posted: March 21, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am 47 years old, attractive and in decent physical shape. I receive compliments from many men of a variety of ages. I have just met a new man who is 54, and we are very attracted to each other (not only in the physical sense). We have another date coming up and, although I would love to become intimate with him, I am very self-conscious about my body.

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Saturday 03/19/2016
For this student, 'wife me' equals 'beer me'
Posted: March 19, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am a college student. I have had one serious boyfriend. We broke up at the beginning of this year, and I have grown up and blossomed since then.

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Friday 03/18/2016
Ingredients for a child's balanced diet
Posted: March 18, 2016

Fans of Buddy the Elf will remember that he sticks to the four major food groups: candy, candy canes, candy corns and syrup.

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Abuse survivor faces mother's denial
Posted: March 18, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am a 36-year-old female. When I was 16, as the oldest of four children, I experienced the most aggressive beating from my father in a long line of abusive beatings. The incident was so bad that my mother sent me to stay at a friend’s house for a week while the entire matter “settled down.”

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Thursday 03/17/2016
Teen daughter wants some dime to pay for ink
Posted: March 17, 2016

DEAR AMY: Our daughter is a bright, talented 19-year-old who has already gotten four small tattoos, several ear piercings, and a nose ring. You know – the usual. She has now told us about her next piece, an elbow-to-shoulder full-color floral arrangement. She says she is planning to start gauging her ears and was considering a dermal implant near her collarbone.

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Wednesday 03/16/2016
The history of the Old 'City' Cemetery
Posted: March 16, 2016

Often we have heard Benjamin Franklin’s quote: “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”

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Mom of two wants her guy to be a better dad
Posted: March 16, 2016

DEAR AMY: My boyfriend has three grown kids. I have a young son, and my boyfriend and I recently had a child together.

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Monday 03/14/2016
Relationship's red flags are flying high
Posted: March 14, 2016

DEAR AMY: I am a 25-year-old young professional woman in a white-collar job with a boyfriend of 10 months, who works in a blue-collar job. He is the type who wants to save and buy a house 30 miles outside of town. I have a little more wanderlust and don’t see myself buying a house/apartment until I am much older. This is a fundamental difference between us, and I wonder if we could ever compromise.

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Presence of scar cranks up rumor mill
Posted: March 14, 2016

DEAR AMY: I recently had skin cancer removed from my face and took four weeks off of work to recover.

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Saturday 03/12/2016
The almighty pinky swear
Posted: March 12, 2016

No matter what virtues and values you try to model and instill into your children, they will ultimately determine their own behavior and choices.

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Woman in relationship competes with 'sugar mama'
Posted: March 12, 2016

DEAR AMY: We first met when I was 14 and he was 16, but when we reconnected we were both married to other people, and we left our spouses for each other. We were married for six years. This ended up being a very toxic and at times abusive relationship.

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